ESSAY-How do you imagine your life partner?

In occasions the couples come and go, the conviviality is never easy, suddenly they emerge the differences and the fondness rarefies, the distrust appears and the loneliness ends up by occupying a too big space between two persons who in spite of sharing the same bed, have the whole ocean of distance between both. Why does this happen? Indeed is it so difficult to find a person who fits to the perfection in our personal and existential machinery, someone who accompanies us in our wheel of the time across congratulations and difficulties?
In occasions we leave ride ourselves for the passion without seeing objectively the person that we have ahead.

In the article of "How to Pick Your Life Partner – Part 2" they tell us about three ingredients that will make our desicion of who we pick better, the most interesting part of it is when it explains that Relationships are always tough, and things don’t get any easier as time goes on. You don’t get any better at it just because you’ve been on the job longer. With most long-term relationships, there are going to be periods of ennui and speed bumps of tedium along the way. Wandering eyes can also become a problem when anyone spends the bulk of his time with just one person. The most important thing is to be aware of the inevitable lulls or moments of doubt, and to make a plan to counteract them. Just because you’ve been together a long time doesn’t mean you can’t still have fun being in the relationship.

In other part the ted of love explain us that a relation of couple is a link of love that arises between two persons. A relation of couple has different stages when it evolves in positive. A relation of couple can be gratifying, in this case, it is a question of a positive link in which the love is a sum and not a subtraction. In the relations of couples the real love demonstrates as a way of complementing itself between both parts, in spite of being different, achieving a compatible way of life, sharing values and projects to future.

In conclusion to find a stable couple is not not simple at all, it is necessary to pass for several stages to achieve an internal growth in each of us in order that the relation could be stable, since, on otherways , the relation would turn out to be complex enough, and the idea is not this, but to have anybody in spite of whom sharing, to whom to help and of whom receiving help. Found a couple means that it must eliminate the concept of " I and only I ", the egocentrism, now we must share our lives with another person, in who we must trust and integrate it to our activities. But for especially, we must complement ourselves with our couple, of this form the relation will turn out to be more agreeable and easier to control.

We must overcome many obstacles and decide for what really we want. Nevertheless, we cannot choose a couple without having a clear vision of what we claim for our future and less if we have not had previous relations that allow to strengthen us internally, to take a good decision, since it is very difficult to take it if it is that some similar situation has not been lived and we can be wrong.

THE LINKS OF THE USED ARTICLES

http://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship

http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/02/pick-life-partner-part-2.html